Should i confront my fiances ex about my stepdaughter for father's day?

2 years ago was the last time my fiance received a Father's day card from his daughter ( now 6 yrs old) - he always took it upon himself to take his daughter to get a card or something for her mother on her birthdya and mothers day. She did the same but stoppped doing it last year. Now father's day is tomorrow, and she has not contacted me nor him for a heads up on a card or anything. My fiance and I live in a different country than his daughter due to his job- so i cant steal her away for a quick shopping date for her daddy. The ex's BF always contacted my fiance to ''remind'' him to pay up and transfer money to his account to take stepdaughter to buy her mother presents for mothersday/birthday etc. My fiance never needed reminding but they came to an agreement the last mothersday and agreed that the live in BF will not be resposible for taking stepdaughter to get gifts for the mother since they all live together.

Should i have contacted the ex in regards to a card for my fiance

Should i confront my fiances ex about my stepdaughter for father's day?
I think ... if you have not had a bad relationship with her .. that you might contact her and just ask her if she could please arrange a card to be sent.....



I think the mother's being horrible if she demands your fiance gives the child money to buy her a mother's day present YET doesn't return the favour for the child's dad.
Reply:hi hunni



Simple resolution to your dilmea, why don't you buy the Father's Day card %26amp; if your step daughter is coming over this weekend, sit down with her %26amp; help her to write in it.

It'll build a bond between you %26amp; your step daughter too.



Good Luck hunni. X :-)
Reply:Do you have any idea how lucky you are that your step daughters mother was this thoughtful even in the past. My husbands ex doesn't even have the kids call or send anything. I take it upon myself to get him something. His ex only has kids call when they want something or are coming here so she can go play and spend the enormous amount of child support he sends. I do however make my children call or send a card or gift for their dad. After he got married it was mutually agreed that she would take care of the gifts and cards but if for some reason my kids aren't able to be there on birthday or fathers day I do make sure they call. It sounds like you have had a good relationship in the past with his ex. Try everything you can to nurture that. It is obvious that you are concerned about Fathers day so you need to call her. Maybe she just got busy and hasn't thought about it. Good luck.
Reply:If you have a good relationship then yes call and explain to her it hurts his feelings, because b4 new bf can in your fiance always ensured she had a card and gift. I went through this with my husband and his ex. We did not have a good relationship at first, so I just went out and brought him a card and gift myself. Another idea is maybe you can call the daughter if you can, tell her you know she not there and you want to do over the phone shopping. Explain she can tell you what she would like to get him, and you get for her. This is still her picking it out and get a kiddie card for her! Hope this helps
Reply:I would let this ride, when the child gets old enough she will think of it herself. The child is between 2 families and it could be confusing for her. Your boy friend will understand because the child is so young. It would'nt be good to have the child in between , he said, she said. The best thing is to talk to his daughter on a regular bases. Thats the best gift of all.