Why do you think you can be so cold?

Ok, I am so hurt that my kids did not send me a birthdy card nor mothers day card. They have not called to say they will come up to see me. They ignore me to the fullest. Parents do make mistakes but I tell them that all they have to do is talk to me and discuss their issues but they will not. Why do they have to be so cold to me? Yes, pitty party time. This is a deserving time since no birthday card, mother's day card, nor a phone call saying they will come up this week. Why do they want me to continually have pitty parties and they do not come even though they are invited( said in a joking fashion)? Why are you so cold and unforgiving/

Why do you think you can be so cold?
What did you do? some people have trouble forgiving. It makes them feel better to hang onto their anger
Reply:Well...I don't know the whole story but I have a mother who says the same things about my sister. U need to stop thinking about urself and think about what u did to make ur kids want to stay away from u. Kids don't just magically one day start hating their mother......whether u realsize it or not u did something to make them not like u enough to shun u completely. U need to sit them down and ask them what u did and just LISTEN to them. Don't force urself on them, but let them know u are there for them and u want to make things better b/w u all.
Reply:They will regret it in the future, perhaps. Keep the door open, and just be there...a mother always forgives...part of the job description!
Reply:My kids don't send or give cards either! I think with e-mail and Facebook, etc., cards are becoming a thing of the past. But why do you say they are unforgiving? Sometimes if I call someone and they imply at that time that I don't call enough (even joking), it makes me sorry that I called at all. I can't help that, it is just a feeling. So if they do call, don't say anything like "Oh, I was starting to think you didn't ever want to talk to me" or anything like that. Perhaps they are quite wrapped up in their lives right now. Are they having problems? Take them some soup, or invite them over to play a game. Next year, before your B/day or Mother's day, let them know a week before that that you would like nothing better than a big hug for that day. (maybe they didn't have any money and were hoping to slide by the whole thing)
Reply:You sound like a great mom, dont be discouraged just because your kids are coldhearted. It isnt your fault! Try and involve yourself in stuff which you'd like.

They'll regret it when they think of it.
Reply:Sounds like empty nest syndrome. You just need something to do to occupy your time and take your mind off it. You had a life before your kids came along, and likely a pretty fun one. Take advantage of the situation and have fun again.
Reply:no problem coz parents are responsible only for maturity stage of children not for all life.also our PROPHET say that a time came when child forget his duty that is he become worse , forget his parents, abuse her parents nd this is time when the earth and all on it will finished. so not to worry but always paray for their good from ALLAH that HE gave them the right path.
Reply:Welcome to consumer society. If sending a birthday card to your mom doesn't score you an iPhone, it's not worth doing it.
Reply:well, i dont know the background to your lives, but maybe they still feel angry about something. maybe they want more change from your side.
Reply:I'm taking it by your sign on name that you're a grandmother and that your children have children. One day the shoe will be on the other foot, and they will then realize how they have hurt you.



There were many things that I did to my parents and I didn't even come close to understanding the effects that I had on them until I became a parent myself.



And even though I'm not one of your kids, it still deserves to be said... Happy Mothers Day! and Happy Belated Birthday!!