I have been divorced for 8 years and remarried and i have a question about the former spouse?

I have two children from the first marriage and i have full custody. my ex husband is remarried i love his wife she is wonderful to the kids I even get the kids to give her a mothers day card on mothers day. thats not the problem.

The problem is my ex husband only wants to see the kids when he is trying to make up with his wife. they have left each other like 7 times. well she has left him. He only wants to show interest in the kids when he is back with her. She has no kids and wants them but isnt able. anyway...my question is im super nice and flexible with him but i dont like the way he is doing. he will do things like wait in the car for 6 hours with the kids while she is in work they are that crazzy and jealous of each other he waits it her work for 6 hours with a 12 and 8 year old in the car.

Anyway when he does want to see them he has trips to amusemnt parks planned and expensive things so i look like the bad guy if i say anything. i wondered if i should do anything ?

I have been divorced for 8 years and remarried and i have a question about the former spouse?
Don't do anyhting, is my advice. The kids are getting old enough to figure out their dad is a nutbar, and pretty soon , they will choose NOT to go visit him. He's "digging his own grave". Just keep doing what you've been doing! You're doing a great job!!
Reply:there is something seriously wrong with your ex if he is that jealous and controlling and difficult to get along with. if you have full custody then i would not let my kids be with him. having them sit for 6 hrs. waiting for her while she is at work, using them to get to her...is just plain sick and scary. he sounds like one of those guys who would hurt his own children just to get the attention of his wife. i wouldn't trust him as far as i could throw him and no matter how nice you think his wife is and no matter how nice you are your first priority is the health and safety of your children. that means neither he or she and what they want matter when it comes to your children. you asked and i will tell you...every time you let your children go with him you are putting them in danger, i don't know what his problem is but any adult who uses their children the way you have described he uses them is nuts and dangerous. god only knows what he does with or to them that they are scared to tell you about. there is a very good reason that the courts gave you full custody so keep them away from him. it's obvious he doesn't care for them and only uses them why are you letting him.
Reply:His relationship with his wife has nothing to do with you, so leave it alone. Also, what he does with the children when they're with him is none of your business, so leave that alone as well. And stop feeling insecure because he takes his kids on trips. Use this time to enjoy your marriage, and let the children have their fun. Be wise enough to stay out of this man's life and concentrate on your own happiness.
Reply:Yes, you can go to family court and petition for him to have less visitation based on the actions you have observed in a hostile-like environment, saying it is confusing and bad for the children involved. If he's serious about providing a good setting for the children upon visitation, he will attempt to straighten things out with his new wife.
Reply:This is a solution staring you right in the face. If they are having problems, dont let your kids be the pawn in their marriage. IF he only wants them when he is in deep crap, dont let it happen. If you and the kids like her so much, then call her, tell her you would like to chat about something and then let her know that if something should happen to her marriage to your ex, she would be welcome to still see the kids if she wants. Let her know how you feel about her and how the kids feel about her and let her know she wont be excluded cause your ex is a jerk