I have a 3 1/2 yr old and 10 month old and my husband got me nothing for mothers day...is it right to be mad?

He didnt even get me a card. I just would like to know that I am appreciated for all the hard work that I do raising my kids by being a stay at home mom. I was very upset and even asked him about it, he said that he didnt have time. He is a great father and husband, but this just hurt my feelings.

I have a 3 1/2 yr old and 10 month old and my husband got me nothing for mothers day...is it right to be mad?
I think you have a right to be angry and hurt. You put in alot of time and energy taking care of your husband and children. He should have acknowledged that and done something nice for you to show that he appreciates you. Everyone likes to be appreciated at least once in while. Maybe he was busy. Maybe he didn't know what to do. Maybe he does feel bad and doesn't know how to fix it so he makes up excuses and has become defensive. Maybe you can think of a way for him to make it up to you and then suggest it to him. Say it in a way that's more positive or not attacking him and pointing out his mistake. Then next year remind him and make it easier for him to do something for you.
Reply:I think that you do deserve some recognition. Did he at least wish you a happy Mother's Day? Maybe he just couldn't afford to do anything more.
Reply:yeah you have a right to be mad . . . .did he even wish you a happy mothers day??? the least he could do is make a home made card or cook you dinner or breakfast . . . take you out something



i am really sorry to hear that



well-happy mothers day!
Reply:Why get mad?

It's just a holiday created by the greeting card companies to make money.

I'm a mother, and my bf didn't wish me a happy mom's day.

So what?
Reply:he isnt very thoughtful.im a single mum of 1 and my mum takes my little boy shopping for me. i think thats sweet. your husband should of done the same. or even take the kids of your hands for a few hours while you get pampered or something.
Reply:Yes!! I think it is very wrong!!! you deserved a gift. I would be upset too!!! He should have gave you something for all the hard work you have done. I know if you were to do the same for father's day he would be upset. Good luck and I hope this helps!!!
Reply:hell yeah, i would be mad
Reply:Someone needs to spend a few nights on the couch on this one!! I'm a guy and all guys know that is a no-no!!
Reply:Mad is a feeling so there isn't a right or wrong to it. If you feel mad then you feel mad. It isn't a thought; though you may modify feelings by thinking about things in certain ways.



Perhaps it is more useful to think about what is reasonable to do now that you are mad. If you are mad about something that is your responsibilty you have to deal with that and be fair to him. If you feel he should have been more thoughtful and that your desire for recognition is reasonable then I think you should tell him how his lack of attention hurt your feelings. Tell him how what he did effected you without telling him why it was wrong. For example, saying "When you did not get me anything for mother's day I felt angry and sad. It made me feel unappreciated to not have you honor that a little bit."
Reply:...oh well, so he's not the most thoughtful man on the planet...so what...guess you know what you won't do for him on Father's day now, don't you...
Reply:Has he remembered all the other years? If so, let this one go, believe me he will not forget for the next 30 yrs.! If he's forgotten before, my guess is that he's a fairly self centered person. That being the case, make sure that you always stand up for yourself and your rights as a human being and a woman.
Reply:I would be thoroughly upset if my husband did this to me. I would bring it to his attention and take the credit card or any cash he has. At least $100, leave him the kids and spend it on yourself since he didn't have the time.



I would leave the kids with him, pack up and go out and do or buy something nice for myself. And if he asks where you're going tell him that since he didn't have the time to get you a gift, you'll be taking the liberty of going out and getting it yourself. YOU DESERVE IT! I have a 13 yr old an a 9yr old. They're STILL NOT EASY.



Seriously though, talk to him and let him know that your feelings were deeply hurt that he didn't even acknowledge your special day. Remind him that being a stay at home mom and care taker of two little ones isn't an easy job. Let him also know that you felt very unappreciated, that what you do all day is a job too. (why do you think most men don't do it)



And if he isn't sorry, then shame on him!!!!



Good luck to you.
Reply:you should just tell him how you feel because the last thing you want is to keep your feelings in
Reply:I would be mad as hell!
Reply:I would be upset. That's pretty lame on his part.
Reply:mabey he when't to the bar to look at some hotter younger chicks than you ! thats what i would do also get him a card for fathers day mabey he dosen't think you love him!
Reply:I would be hurt 2.Your husband deserved a slap in the face...that's so bad
Reply:aw ...that happened to me a few times... I am sorry.. Now we are divorced and Am so much happier and the fool called to say "happy mothers day!",
Reply:yeah i understand i would be mad to! but if its his first flaw then its ok he plobably does appreciate you but maybe is shy to show it! but also i was talking to my mother that day and i told her what did my father get her she said nothing they both understand that its mothers day and the children are the ones to get somethings for their mothers! so dont beat yourslf about it theirs pleaty of mothers days to come
Reply:getting mad would only hurt the relationship for you and him. sit down with him and calmly talk to him about how you feel. Ask him about his feelings too. If he is to insecure to talk about it then maybe you should get mad.
Reply:your husband shouldv'e have gotten you anything because your not his mothers but your 3 year old should know better lol
Reply:I would be mad too. All I got was a pillow with a picture of my kids in it. I thought mine could have put a little more thought into the gift. I guess I need to be thankful he tried. Be honest. He won't make the same mistake next year.
Reply:You have every right to be upset! He could have at least got you a card "from the kids". I think that was VERY thoughtless.



Just remember, Father's day is coming up. You can either be as thoughtless as him and "forget to have time", or go the other way and make a big deal of it and show him how special he is. He might get the idea of what he neglected to do for you.



Happy belated Mothers Day !!! :)