So, anyone else in same boat- 1st mothers day, next to nothing!?

my son is 4months old..and this is my first mothers day...husband just took over the dished, make dinner and cleaned up living room..s.aid he didn't have time to get a card, and wanted to help around the house....i think he had plans in his head to do ltos more, but thats all he did (which was about 30 minutes in all)- when our bedroom is trashed and the bathroom, he did easy stuff..I feel ripped off, I will NEVER have another first monthers day and i am very upset. all i needed was a card w/ something hand written telling me i'm great or something. sigh.



crying.

So, anyone else in same boat- 1st mothers day, next to nothing!?
I would just straight out tell him that you expected more. You dont have to be bitchy about it, but just tell him matter-of-factly.



On my first MOther's Day, my husband got me.....Oxy Clean. He thought it was a great gift, because I always used it to clean the baby's clothes / formula stains. I thought it was a joke. Then when I realized that was the real gift, I was livid.



But you know, he was completely clueless. It was his first mother's day too. He had no clue what to get or what to do. I cried and cried all day long, and the next day I got a dozen roses. We laugh about it now, 7 years later. And he never screwed up another Mother's Day after that.



So, just tell him.
Reply:I think he did good, ecept for not getting a card!!!!! All i got was a card and a tshirt that says bestmom hands down with my sond handprints. but i would have been happy with nothing!!! my first mothers day was great because i am a mom. to a beautifulson, thats all i needed. my house didnt need to be cleaned cause i keep it clean everyday!
Reply:Yep in the same boat you are :( but I didn't even get the house work! I really really wanted a card! It will NEVER be our first mothers day's EVER again! now that they are on sale I think we sould both go buy one for ourselves! I wanted one for my scrap book! Not fair! i was pregnant for fathers day and I went all over looking for a fatherday card for an expecting daddy! we mama's get ripped!! :(
Reply:I would maybe send him an email. Maybe he was trying and didn't realize that you wanted a card so bad. You know men sometimes just don't get it. Thats the way they are made. It does sound like he had the idea in his head just wasn't sure how to make it all work. GOD BLESS YOU!
Reply:im sorry for you maybe he can make it up to ya. i bet he just didnt realize that it meant so much. i assume its his first time being a dad. oh and dont forget fathers day is coming up you could just return the favor. just a thought.
Reply:The tell him you want a card, even if its late! Call him at work and tell him to pick you up a card on the way home. Its not like his feet are broken! I understand how much that little card means to you.
Reply:I got a couple of cards, one specifically from my husband and the other from my husband and seven and a half month old daughter. (My husband had our daughter hold the pen under her hand while he, er, she wrote "Love Elizabeth".) I did have a bit more free time yesterday, as he played with her and cared for her, but that was in part because he was home for the day anyway.



I didn't expect a crown, scepter and throne and all of the stuff that is "supposed" to come with it. My husband does plenty around the house and for me to begin with. The way I see it, Mother's Day is nothing but a Hallmark holiday anyway. (I think Father's Day was created becasue the retail stores saw how profitable Mother's Day was.)



Between the two of us we do what we can when we can. Had I been thinking this morning, I would have taken my daughter upstairs to nap so I could either work in the room that was supposed to be hers, or do the dishes, which I wanted to do this morning, but she woke up early. However, when she was done nursing on one side, I just wanted to lay her down long enough to get some ibuprofen. She actually stayed asleep, which she doesn't always do in her downstairs crib.



Maybe your husband does more and you don't notice it because it's too everyday. I told my husband to go back to bed for a couple of hours this morning because he was up until three working on a paper and doing laundry last night. Later, if/when I need some time, he'll take over things. I'm going to the dentist to get some holes filled today and if it's like the last time, I'll probably nap in the dentist chair.



Why not talk with your husband?
Reply:Don't worry about it. He'll have a first Father's Day soon, and depending on how you play your cards (you could do something very elaborate and he may feel guilty or you can do next to nothing and he'll understand). But keep in mind that men do not feel the same amount of sentiment or emotion behind events the same way that females do, and he may have thought that what he did was really special. You know your husband, I'm sure he meant no malice. Just mention it to him - maybe next year he'll make it all up to you. Sorry that it wasn't everything you expected, but the best thing of all is that you were able to have a Mother's day. Congratulations