What do you think about my mom?

she doesn't have a job and hasn't worked in 13 years. she doesn't even try to look for a job. she has diabetes. my dad is a teacher; he makes $50 k per year. she sometimes cooks, does laundry, and clean. she complains about doing that like we need to help her do it, since she decided to stay at home. i am a college student, who stays at home during the summer. she complains about me giving her her mothers day card late, and not a gift to my grandparents when i said i was going to make them a card. she says i am selfish because i dont buy them gifts, and i make cards. like i owe her a card. but i did give it to her. she then says things like you need to clean, cook, etc. i dont even have a car, yet alone a laptop for school. i am trying to save up for that. yet alone a place of my own in a year when i graduate. i buy all of my personal things, clothes, hygiene products, spending money. my parents pay for my schooling, and then my food/utilities when i live at home during the summer.

What do you think about my mom?
your mother has emotional issues, and she is also abusing you emotionally.



some people do these things, and when it is our parents, we tend to sit back and wonder.



i have found a few websites with information. the first one simply talks about recognizing emotional abuse.. the second one seems more thorough, and the third is probably a little below your level, but i included it anyway, in case there is something useful there.



i'm sorry you're going through this. your mother needs help, hon.... i hope you will be able to move forward and learn how to cope with her behavior.



sending hugs
Reply:What's the problem - move out. Pay your own way and quit whining about mommy. You will only have to do your own laundry and cook for yourself and you will be free of your mother's "issues". I doubt either of your parents will greatly regret your departure.
Reply:I almost feel sorry for your dad. But he should be protecting you from that slag. Too bad he doesn't divorce her *** and teach you the lesson that one does not have to live like that! He has made himself and YOU victims.
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Reply:She truly is a blessed woman! Not many people can say they can stay at home.

Personaly my Mom still made me do chores when I was at home in college. I guess if you make a mess you have to clean it up. My Mom made me do it to until I moved out. Then I cleaned up when I wanted tyo.
Reply:my cousins mom is like this. she stays home while the dad owns a construction company and complains to my cousins to clean their room and etc, i think EVERY mom is like this now adays. they just get lazier and lazier...but i mean hey i wouldnt wanna be stuck all day cleaning 24/7 and i would want some help
Reply:I think your mom has some issues. She sounds like she is an overly critical, unhappy person. She should not be criticizing you in that manner. She needs to get out and do something for herself. You also sound like you have a bigger issue with your mom (other than cooking,cleaning) that is upsetting you. Try identifying and addressing that. I hope things improve for you.
Reply:The big problem is, you only one Mom and you're stuck with her.

There were lots of times when I was young that I wished I had different parents, and I used to get really jealous of my friends who had great parents who were really friendly, and could understand all my problems.

But now my Mum and Dad are both dead, and I wish I had been a bit nicer to them, and a bit more understanding, and a bit less selfish.
Reply:well...it sounds to me like she is an overprotective mother. I just barely graduated highschool...so sorry for any bad grammar. but this sint about me, it's about your problem...so with that said, My father seems the same way most of the time. He lives in Florida, I'm in RI, but he is always nagging me, and critisizing most of the choices I make in life. My mother though is alway's understanding, and believes everyone should do what they have to, to get by because thats just the way life is, but yet she's always there to support me when I need her support. Your mother sounds like she is depressed because of lack of help around the house, and feels like the weight is all on her shoulders, does your father help her with chores and duties etc? In my family everyone is expected to pitch in and help, even my kids ages 9 and 13. If they dont, then thre are consequences. Responsability is not something you can do without in life, it's a must have. At least to a certain extent if any? Maybe your mother has just underestimated your abilities as an individual living on your own, and worries you might not have what it takes to succeed, is she afraid you might fail her as her daughter?

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