Mothers day, should I ask him?

the only woman that my fiances son has been around he calls mom (but don't act like it, she messed up the family and that's why his dad divorced her). anyway, should I ask him if he wants to make her a card? He calls her mom, but that's not his biological mom, and their relationship is "ok" he don't talk about her at all. You know how kids do stuff they really don't want to just to make a parent happy?



remind you, me and my fiance's ex wife tries to cause trouble in our relationship between me and my fiance, and between his son and older brother. (1 kid from the marriage, 1 from previous relationship)...so would this be a "good" idea?

Mothers day, should I ask him?
I think it would be a very kind gesture on your part.



But you may want to check with your fiance first.
Reply:I think that it would be very nice of you to encourage him to do so if that is what he wants to do. I think that it will show her that you care about the son and not about all the silly baby mama crap. Baby mama drama is normally fueled by jealousy so I am assuming she hopes to make you jealous at times. Show her that those kinds of things don't bother you the least bit.
Reply:Normally, I would suggest making a clean break from the ex. However, since the older brother is a product from his previous marriage, their will always be that tie.



I'd suggest letting the child choose his path. Don't push him one way or the other, but talk with him about what he would like to do.



Your the third "mom" in his life. It's got to be tough on the boy. Be as supportive and compassionate as possible.



-S!
Reply:This may be selfish but if u teach him how 2 treat and take care of the women in his life now u probably will be the one 2 reap the benefits of it later on in life.So let him make her a card u might get one after u help him make one for her.Children learn different lessons.
Reply:Let him worry about buying cards for people he wants to cal;l Mom. leave it alone and who cares about ex girlfriends or anything else. he will do the right thing or the wrong thing and you being out of it leaves him with the decision.
Reply:See what your fiance wants to do. If he thinks it is a good idea, then I think it would be lovely. You don't want to over step your boundaries, so chat first... make later. :-)
Reply:no.Let it be ,if he asks you for help then help him but let it be his choice.