My fiance, the ex, my stepdaughter for Father's Day?

Ok here's the deal:



My fiance and I moved to a diff. country for his job and his daughter is 3 hour plane ride in england. His daughter's mother and him had an agreement since they split that they would each make sure that they would help their child out when it came to birthdays for the parent and mothers/fathers day. well , the ex has had a BF living with her since the day they broke up (she cheated) and my faince met me 3 years ago and we've been living together 2 years. The ex hasnt gotten my stepdaughter to get my fiance a father's day card since 2 years ago. Meanwhile my fiance still contributes to the card and gift ..goes out and gets it for her and slaps my stepdaughters name on it. Which to me is just pointless but anyway, she didnt bother to take my stepdaughter to do it for him. The ex's BF always contacts my fiance to ''remind'' him to pay up for mother's day or ex's birthday. Finally my finace and him mutally agreed that the BF will not take care of presents.

My fiance, the ex, my stepdaughter for Father's Day?
Unfortunately your fiance appears to be sensitive about such things, this is a pity, it isn't up to you to have to remind anyone about these matters or they don't come from the heart, that is the idea, otherwise they are pointless, I wish he could be the same. hope he can come to that way of thinking. Best of luck. By the way I have kids.
Reply:hi is this question to do with the mother or is it the mothers b/f,or is it to do with the father of this kid ......which is stuck with all this confusion ,and believe me after reading that im confused ......sorry im just dont know what youre asking ! have a great day though xx
Reply:Don't get involved, Let him take care of his past problems and also do what he can to be involved in his daughter life. If a problem occurs and you are also involved you will end up blamed.
Reply:Well I have re-partnered too.



I assume the responsibilty of Fathers day for my new hubby.........as his ex doesnt bother, so I take his kids and my kids shopping for them to get him something....................I dont wait for his ex at all.
Reply:Stay out of it. Your fiance needs to learn how to handle his ex.
Reply:call the ex and be friendly,



try to establish a cordial friendship to help

but make sure you inform your hubby first



and fathers day, buy a card put the child's name on it, and your name, and mail it to yourselves



start keep a journal and keeping track,



might want to consider legal court order child custody plans
Reply:no its not your resposibility

but in light of their history i would have written phoned or emailed a couple of weeks ago, ahead of time like they do with yo, just so they knew what was expected of them, 2 people as inconsiderate as her mom and moms BF need a little prodding

since its too late now, can you speak to the little girl and promise next time you are all together you will have a special daddys day then

dvr