Is it innappropriate to send a mothersday card to motherinlaw I haven't met?

That being said husband and I had a very small wedding just us and my mom and dad, no honeymoon or anything. We really didn't want much. We didn't have money for plane tickets and his family didn't either. His sister and mom I have talked to on phone and online a few times and his dad he doesn't talk to. We are having a baby in September and even thought she isn't here I try to keep his mom as close as possible. I keep her posted on all the updates and appointments. I feel bad she can't be here and am even trying to save up to see if we can get her here for birth however my husband claims she can't take off work for that long. With mothers day coming up I bought a mothers day card for her that says Grandma and is really cute and was going to write a little message from us and the baby and send her the ultrasound pictures in it and he told me "you don't even know her why would u send her a mothers day card???" It made me feel really bad. Is it that bad of an idea?

Is it innappropriate to send a mothersday card to motherinlaw I haven't met?
There is nothing wrong in sending your mother-in-law a mothers day card even though you two have never met. It sounds like a good idea and it will show that you were thinking of her. It doesn't matter if the two of you never meet. Afterall, she is your husband's mother and she will soon be a grandmother to your baby.
Reply:I dont see any harm in it, but make sure the card is from both you %26amp; your husband, as it is his mother. Also remember men dont think like women, guys are just wired different then us. I think its a nice gesture %26amp; you can do no wrong by sending a card.
Reply:No. Honestly I think your husband just doesn't want you to be worrying about it. I don't think he meant it in a bad way. Maybe he doesn't get along with his mom so well and you're unaware of some of that relationship too. ;-)



Go ahead and send it. Men aren't into cards etc. Lol!
Reply:i think it is a great idea! Sounds like hubby might have some family issues. Keep up the good work because I am sure that mommy-in-law appreciates it!
Reply:I was married over 20 years and never met my mother-in-law.I called her on the phone the night my son was born and she hung up on me but I sent her cards and photo's for every holiday.Good luck.
Reply:If she doesn't already know about the baby, it is a cute idea as to how to tell her.
Reply:I would do it . I think she would love it. And it will make her feel included in your lives .
Reply:If she is a mother it would not be anything more than respect.
Reply:No it's a cute idea. Go with it. But just remember, one day you may be wishing that mother-in-law would take a hike!
Reply:yes get your husband to send it and maybe sign your name

it would be weird
Reply:Your boyfriend is being a cad. Go ahead and send the card. It will make her feel good to be included in details of her future grandchild. You are setting a good example for your unborn child by trying to build a positive relationship with its grandparents. You are also building a good relationship between you and her. There is nothing better than a mother in law that loves you like her own, just like there is nothing like the annoying mother in law. Just because your man doesn't have much of a heart, doesn't mean you have to leave yours behind too!
Reply:No I think it's a great idea. Your mother-in-law can be your best ally or your worst nightmare, so starting things out now with the card is helping to put her in your corner. She will be touched and even if she can't be here she will at least feel connected to her new daughter-in-law, and will feel like she is a part of the pregnancy and birth of her grandchild. Sometimes men can't understand the connection women have w/ their families. I think you would be doing the right thing by sending the card and ultrasound pic.
Reply:I love the fact that you want to make her feel like part of your family. I think you should send it. Just put yourself in her place and think about what you would want when your child grows up and if you are in the same situation...would you want that card and ultrasound photo?? I thin any mother or grandmother to be would love to get that for mothers day. You have very good intuition and you will be rewarded for it someday. Make her feel as much a part of that baby's life as you can. You are gonna be an awesome mom and she will feel better about you.