My husband didn't get me anything for mothers day?

I was joking around with my husband and said that not only should the baby get me a present, but the dogs too. Again, this was a joke. My husband turned around and said, "YOU EXPECT A GIFT!"





I was a bit hurt. I didn't even get a card today. Zip, zilch, nada, NOTHING! He said our baby was my gift. Am I in the wrong to feel a bit hurt about this?

My husband didn't get me anything for mothers day?
Oh mama. I would be hurt, pissed and anything else in the category.





First thing is first: Let your husband know how you feel. Communication is the key to most happy marriages.





Second: Remember that Father's Day is right around the corner. If I was in your shoes, I wouldn't be spiteful though. Give him a nice Father's Day to show him how one is suppose to be treated in appreciation of parenthood.





Third: Pamper yourself. Next year have him babysit while you got to the spa to get pampered, shop, etc. whatever it is that you really love to do.
Reply:If you're hurt, then tell him.





It sounds like you're a new mom and he's a new dad under a LOT of stress.





If you want something, ask him. That's all it takes. If he starts to ask all p*ssy, then ask him to go through labor for a change.
Reply:That is sad!!! He could have at least bought you a card. Let him know how much it hurt your feelings. Get him straight now for the long run in the future. When Fathers day comes for him acknowledge it and I hope he thinks about what a thoughtless husband he was on your Mothers day. Set up now what is expected for all future holidays to teach your child the importance of those special occasions. I am so sorry he did not appreciate you on this special day and I would like to say HAPPY MOTHERS DAY to you and for bringing your beautiful child into the world and giving his baby it's life. All mothers are special in that without them we all would not be here. I hope next year it is better for you sweetie.
Reply:I think you can't help but being hurt....the way most holidays are commercialized these days....I got small things, and that was fine with me.....but my children are the most precious gifts of all.....so your husband is right in that regard.





Just remember this come his bday/fathers day.
Reply:its fine to feel hurt my stepdad got my mom something for mother's day and i got my mom something for mother's day, but when your baby get's older im sure she/he will get you something for mother's day
Reply:No, and tell him that it hurt NOW...or else don't expect many gifts in the future. Not too hard to show a woman that he appreciates her and appreciates what she went through to be the mother of his child... don't wait or you can just expect the same each year, Nothing but........................................ "You Expect A Gift" ? It will be Zip, Zilch, Nada alright from then on out!
Reply:No you are not wrong. You are the mother of his child. He was being selfish for not even buying you a card. I would be really hurt and rather upset. He could of done something special for you like make dinner or do the dishes. He should appreciate you for taking care of your child. I would tell him that you do not feel appreciated and you feel like he is taking you for granted. Happy Mothers day to you.
Reply:You should absolutely feel hurt by this....he is being a bonehead. Did you get him something for Father's Day?





Does he remember what you went through to bring that baby into the world? Did he appreciate all that hard work? Did his momma teach him to say, "thank you"?





Speaking of his mamma? Did he get her something for mother's day?





Guess what he should not be getting from you for awhile?
Reply:He should have at least told you mother's day in the morning with a big kiss and maybe breakfast in bed at least! I didn't get a gift for mother's day today but was VERY happy because we ALL spent the day together and turned out to be a GREAT day because I was made to feel like a queen because everything I wanted to do today we did - with NO WHINING!
Reply:HI....married lady here....15 years....


I didn't get anything from my husband either, or my 14 year old daughter...or the dogs for that matter!





Yes, my feelings are hurt too. Not only did they not even get me a card (which would have been enough), but I spent the day doing laundry, dishes and vacuuming. All that AFTER I went to my mother IN LAW's house and did yard work. (he did some...but I did most of it)





YOu are justified in how you feel. No one can tell you how you can feel. It's what you do with those feelings that make a difference.


I would tell you husband how you feel. It is possible that he totally forgot and feels bad about it but can't or won't admit it. Just tell him that you know it might seem silly to him but it would be nice if once a year, he acknowledged you in a special way on that day.


And what he said about the baby being your gift is VERY mean. I would tell him that. You might also point out that you already RECEIVED that gift once....he can't take it back and give it to you again! That's like regifting :)


Then, take yourself out and buy yourself a little treat. A new blouse or bag or nail polish or something that you've been wanting but didn't want to spend money on yourself for. When you bring it home show it to him and tell him " This is what the baby gave me for mother's day".


Next year, tell him exactly what you expect for mother's day. Make it easy on him if you have to. When my daughter was a baby, all I wanted for mother's day was a two hour nap, alone, uninterrupted in a quiet house. He took her out for a couple hours and left me to my nap. It was wonderful. Come up with something like that for him to do next year and you might get better results.


I'm not sure yet how I'm going to handle this year's lack of consideration. But, since I'm on the computer at 12:30 in the morning and he's in bed alone..., I guess I sent a pretty clear message.....:)





Happy MOther's Day! go treat yourself, you deserve it! (I'm going to buy a new pair of shoes tomorrow)
Reply:what a f@ck head you should tell him off for that and tell him no sex either
Reply:what i did is take the kids to the store picked out what i wanted and got it then i took it home and said honey look what the kids got me isn't it great. what could he say .
Reply:Well, I guess you know what to do when Father's Day rolls around.


Technically, he shouldn't have to give you anything, since you are not his mother. When your child gets older, he/she will give you Mother's Day gifts and little mis-spelled cards, don't worry.


But by the same token, you should not acknowledge Father's Day either - except in the case of your own father, of course.
Reply:Wow. A card wouldn't have gone astray. Man he would have made one on a piece of paper and just printed baby's feet on it for you.





Keep in mind Father's Day only a few months away. Make sure he gets the same treatment.





Very inconsiderate.
Reply:it was hurtful but hesproably goin 2 surprise u
Reply:Life is full of assholes. You married one of them.
Reply:You may be on low income. you are not his mother.I hope he got his real mother something.
Reply:I can see why you would feel hurt but really if he told you happy mother's day and thanks for everything that you do. That's all i got and well what can I say atleast he said something even thougth he gave his mom a very expensive gift... I feel hurt but if I something then I am wrong and we start fighting so it is just easier to let it go... You really don't need a card for your husbend to tell you how you feel but I know that it would really be nice... But he was wrong to say that the baby is your gift although it is the best gift a mother could have it should not be used as a excuse or a reason to not give you or say anything to you... I know that it wasn't the best day but it's almost over and just hope that next year will be better.
Reply:No, you are not totally wrong. Your husband should have at least got you a card from the baby. Forget the dogs.


That being said, you also need to take into consideration if your husband is the kind of person who forgets to cards for your birthday, anniversary, etc. If he is, then you really shouldn't feel hurt at all.


Also remember, you are NOT his mom, but his wife. But he should at least get you a card from your child.


If you child is not already born, then you are a mom-to-be and should wait until next year to be upset.





Hope this is helpful!
Reply:hell, it's been 5 years and mine has never even wished me happy mothers day
Reply:i would be hurt. did he bother to say happy mothers day. did he want the baby when you got pregnant. it almost sounds like him letting you have the baby was your gift and not to ask for nothing else. talk to him tell him about how you feel and maybe there is a reason for his rudeness.
Reply:not at all. i went to dinner with my mom and dad today. and we were actually saying how it is the other spouses duty as a spouse and parent to make sure the kids take care of their mother and father on special occassions. your baby obviouslly could not have gotten you anything, but your husband should have made sure that you felt special today.





HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!
Reply:did he get his MOTHER anything?
Reply:Just don't get him nothing for fathers day as he won't be EXPECTING A GIFT!!! This shouldn't be a huge issue. You will get plenty of mothers day presents in the future which will be much dearer to you than anything that asshole would give you
Reply:That was a real mean thing for him to do but he is a guy so they all do stupid things like this. I'm sorry to hear that you had a lousy mothers day...cheer up, just do the same thing to him for fathers day.
Reply:No, you are not. They even make Mother's Day cards for wives. He should have known to give you a gift and honor you as the mother of his child. Um, the baby is his gift, too.





I remember my mother got REALLY angry at my dad when I was young for saying the same thing to her "You expect a gift?" (they separated a few years later, for many other reasons, obviously).





I don't have any children of my own yet, and I'm really hurt today and hating Mother's Day since my mother got unreasonably angry with me after I tried very hard to give her a great Mother's Day... but I still think that you are totally right for being hurt. I'm so sorry! I think Mother's Day means a lot more to women than Father's Day does to men. Hope your husband understands that next year and makes up for it big time.
Reply:not a least bit. you should feel hurt i mean it is mothers day and sure you have a brand new bundle of joy but the least he could to is apperciate you.. he could have atleast helped you with the baby or cooked dinner so you wouldnt have to do it or something that shows me loves you.. i may be wrong in my answer but thats my personally opinion.
Reply:DONT FEEL BAD ABOUT THIS








well what may be ovbious to you may not be ovbious to him so try not to take it to heart.... now if he forgets next year then id feel crummy about it
Reply:no your not wronge but i have no clue what to say to him explain that your truly hurt by that
Reply:No you are not in the wrong, and he needs to be told that you are the MOTHER OF HIS CHILDREN, and yes you should have been entitled to a gift from him!! By the way HAPPY MOTHERS DAY TO YOU!!!
Reply:It's only one day a year...damn right you should feel hurt.