How do you feel about FAVORTISM within family?

My granny has her favorites and I feel that isn't fair, however, its life . I am my fathers favorite so atleast Somebody loves me(i guess). Im 23 so I am not down with PETTY stuff. But Jokinly my sister called my cousin a SPOILED BRAT (On her facebook wall) and I said "Yea I agree she is spoiled, lol" (JOKING!) But my cousin blew it wayy out of porportion,then she called me an asked why I said it and we went back n forth then SHE HUNG UP ON ME!



She refuses to believe that shes spoiled.She is! My granny faithfully deposits money into her bank account...she buys her coach purses and nice clothes, she sends her birthday cards but NONE of her other grandkids (except my brother) gets one. My granny favors MY BROTHER AND MY 20 YR OLD COUSIN%26amp; MY AUNTIE(THE 21 YR OLDS MOTHER)



My cousin claims its because they visit her more and call her more..thats BS.They only call%26amp;visit more because shes gives them stuff!!!! I send my granny b-day%26amp;mothers days cards and talk to her when i can

How do you feel about FAVORTISM within family?
i am the favorite and my mom loves me. i hope your family stops being childish and enjoys grandma before she dies.
Reply:it is very common in most families. There is nothing you can do about besides tell your grandmother how you feel which will probally do more harm than good. So just don't think about it.
Reply:Find something else to focus on, otherwise the stress will take its toll on you. Let it rest %26amp; move on.
Reply:It happens every day! just say "oh" well...and move on.
Reply:didn't like it, so i moved out to focus on being #1
Reply:I was brought up by a drunk ov a mother.my brother has now turned the same way but he iS her angel i have 2 children who need for nothing and happily settled however my mum hates me,she is negative about everything i do and puts me down in an instant.am not sure if she is just jealous because i am and have everything she always wanted or just the fact she dont like me.i just get no with my life and dont really bother with her,she will need me b4 i need her so just get on with your life until she comes to you
Reply:my grandmother also showed major favourtism to certain grandchildren. my brother was one of them. she seemed to favour the ones that were passive or socially awkward. any of us that showed any spunk she clashed with (me, my very intelligent cousin and smart second cousin, I think I see a pattern hahah). my brother was the youngest of her youngest and favourite daughter (she had 9 kids and zillions of grandchildren and great grandchildren) and she seemed to favour the youngest. the rest of us just understood that this was how grandma was and just accepted it, we couldn't do anything to change her. it wasn't til the last year of her life that with my aunt's help she came to realize that the things she said and did hurt some people. when she died we sat around my aunts kitchen table and fondly and sweetly reminisced about her and laughed about her funny ways long into the night. we all loved her dearly
Reply:Maybe they don't pamper you because you're strong enough to stand on your own. And who appointed you Brat Monitor? Why is it your job to make sure your cousin knows how spoiled she is? Just have faith that when the chips are down and granny's not going to be there forever to pump money into their bank accounts that they'll fail miserably at life and have to sell their coach purses and nice clothes just to make ends meet. If your grandmother likes being used, so be it. Favoritism happens in families. I'm sure there are relatives YOU favor over others, right? Love your family, by all means-- but know that it's OK to not like them if you can understand what I mean. I think you'll be fine either way.
Reply:You can do a couple of things: you can call Granny more often, not to get things, but because you love her.

Then you can stop focusing on what 'they' get and develop what you get out a love relationship with your Granny. I grew up with my step sis and bro. getting it all even before I left home. We all knew they were the favs. so what. I didn't let that stop me from loving the parents I had. Don't let that stop you from enjoying life. Sometimes our words hurt us, true or not, so consider what you say (if it will hurt or not) before you say it.