What should i do?

my g/f of almost 3 years was caught cheating on mothers day. about 2 months ago i had a feeling that she was but she said TRUST me im not... so i did. I took her her mothers day card to her and there he was (and its kinda hard to hide the hickies that he put on her neck. Now she is saying that she doesnt want to be with me or any1 right now. i was gonna ask her to marry me this week. She told me she needs time to figure out what she wants and that she still loves me and does want to spend the rest of our lives together. WHAT DO I DO

What should i do?
leave her and get over her
Reply:why would you want to marry someone that cheated and lied to you how can you trust her how do you know that she wont do the same when your married its your choice you are to break up with her don't waste you efforts and your kindness on someone that doesn't deserve it well she had said she doesn't want to be with anyone at the moment and I'm sorry to be brutally honest about this but because she doesn't want to be with you and doesn't know how to let you go give her space and move on its hard enough trying to pick up the pieces after someone Tc good luck:)
Reply:Let her think about it. Maybe go talk to her. She needs sometime to "figure out herself" and what she wants to do. Trust me, I bet that she DOES still love you, but right now she needs some time to think. Although, I bet that she would really like for you two to sit down and talk, too. Good luck
Reply:She wants to keep her options open for as long as passable, I do not think you need a problem like this in your future do you?

These behavior traits do not disappear, she will be like you see her now for ever.

Go to different places and meet new people do new things that will enrich your life, not be some ones Yo-Yo.



Good Luck
Reply:YOU should be the one telling her that you need time and space to figure this out. Don't let her have you waiting and hurting when she did wrong, i say MOVE ON, she obviously is a lier and a cheater and not worth the pain.
Reply:This is a dilemma. If you really love her, you could forgive and forget, but your relationship will always have trust issues.

I honestly would try to move on, but I know that this is very hard for you, as it would be for anyone.



Good luck.
Reply:i know its going to be hard but you are going to have to get over her. you deserve someone better than her. whatever you do, dont go back to her. shes just saying you guys need separate time for the hickey to go away.



im sorry bout your situation. good luck.
Reply:hate to break this to u but if she wanted to be with you she wouldn't have been cheating on you. If you do go back to her she will just do it again. Move on and find someone who is worth yur time.
Reply:Thats a hard decision. Once someone cheats, they usually always will. The trust just isn't there for you anymore. So what happens when you get married and she cheats? If I were you I wouldnt do it.
Reply:omg, why didn't you just dump her and find another girl? I mean don't take it personally, but if I were you, I would have moved on a long time a go!
Reply:wow i know you love her but geeze let her go... what a jerk she is.. you can never trust her again, if she did it once, she will do it again. sorry that means ending it but she is shady..
Reply:Give her time

I wouldn't trust her enough

for me to marry her

once a cheater always a cheater
Reply:dump her sorry a** shes not good enough shes just useing u i wouldnt trust her if i loved her that much cuz your just ganna end up hurt iv been cheated on so many times and all it did was come back around and bit me in the @$$
Reply:move on. You will never be able to trust her again.....



She doesn't want to be with anyone buts wants to sleep around ...... AND spend the rest of her life with you??



Sounds like you deserve better.
Reply:Ask her to marry you. If she says no, tell her you can't wait for her forever. Then, move on. Ignore your heart ache and use your head.
Reply:Give her time... if she doesn't come back then you know she's not the one. it'll be hard because its been 3 years but time heals all
Reply:why didnt you ask to marry her earlier ??? maybe she needs someone more serious, she didnt want some1 who waits for 3 years b4 asking. I will do the same thing if you waste my time too much.
Reply:how awful of her! forget about her and move on. if she'll cheat now, she'll cheat later.
Reply:I wouldn't trust her again, she broke your heart :(

but, it's up to you..
Reply:SHe's a no good whore.....you'll be happier without her
Reply:What you need to do is stop begging this girl you don't need her. She is confused over what she wants and clearly she does not want you let her go I know its very hard to do this but who needs this type of girl who can not commit to a relationship. I know for sure she will regret cheating on you but what you need to know and learn she has other priorities right now that do not involve you. Its going to be super hard to move on because you have been dating her for about 3 years but come on this can not be your excuse. You need to go out meet new people and it will take time but you will move on, You need to stop talking to this girl and keep no connection what so ever with her. I promise you if you go back with her she is only going to break you apart. Let her go who needs a hoe.
Reply:Im very young but heres what "lovers" would do.



If she's worth the pain;;

If you really love her and you really want to work it out with her. Then just take her back. You need to keep a good eye on her and dont let her go NO WHERE by herself. Keep a close eye on her and wait a couple more years until you propose, because you never know she might just be the WRONG girl.



If she's not worht the pain;;

Then just leave her. Gather up everything that you had together, anything that reminds you of her and put together in a pile. Go out to your backyard and put up a fire. Burn everything and go out to the club and party. It will get her off your mind and you can be with friends and your social life.
Reply:First off, I'm terribly sorry to hear that, it;s hard on ANYONE.

If I were in your shoes, I would use the time that she needs to consolidate her thoughts, to think things over myself.

Go over who you think she is and the person that she now appears to be. She seems to have issues, think about them, long and hard; can you trust her? Do you really want to be with her? How would things be if you got together? And, is it worth it in the end if she doesn't want to be a life partner.



Call up some friends or family. Talk to people about it. Don't let this build up. Go see a movie, Forgetting Sarah Marshal is a closely related movie, but it is pretty funny. Do some things that you enjoy, do something things that you wouldn't normally do -- by this I mean in good practice, stay away from anything that will harm you --



When the time is right, talk to her (if she will) and see if you can figure things out.



I hate to say it, but it looks like a dead end; you never know though.



But if you seriously want to try to stay with her, do some MAJOR thinking about it.



I'm sorry to hear about your misfortune.

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