Why does my husband act like a jerk around Mothers Day?

Last year was my first Mother's Day. My son was only a week old and he got me no flowers, no card, no meal, NOTHING. He always claims he is broke but he has $$$ for his Xbox addiction and food addiction.





This year we have more money. I found a great meal deal at a fancy restaurant that I asked him to take me to, and my mom and other relatives are already going to. He flat out said "Im not doing anything for you or taking you anywhere, I dont have they kind of money and if I took you I couldnt eat too." I feel so lousy, he never helps me with the baby or anything.





I have never been recognized for Mother's Day and for my birthday he got me something and Xbox, that I didnt even want.

Why does my husband act like a jerk around Mothers Day?
Sucks, doesn't it? I was in a somewhat similar situation on my first Mother's Day... except that I'm married to a wonderful man that just didn't THINK that it would be my first Mother's Day and that it would mean so much to me...





He worked on Sundays, so on the morning of Mother's Day, I woke up, tended to the baby, and waited for him to at least MENTION something like "Happy Mother's Day" to me.... but he didn't. I sat at home with the baby all day while he was at work, letting my feelings get the best of me... so by the time he got home, I was pretty damn mad.





I told him how I felt -- that I love him with all of my heart and soul, but that this was probably the most important day of the year to me, because he gave me the best gift ever in our son, and that I felt like he didn't think I was doing a good job because he didn't even get me a card or anything....





But, he works 80+ hours a week, and Mother's Day was the last thing on his mind.... but I made sure that he never forgot again. I told him that there was absolutely NO excuse for forgetting Mother's Day (I mean, he got his own mother something), and that he was going to have to make it up to me big time.





I marched his hiney to the jewelry store and picked out a lovely emerald and diamond ring. I didn't flinch at the price, and he whipped out the credit card and paid for it. It's now my favorite piece of jewelry, I have a funny story to tell all of our friends about how he forgot me on Mother's Day and I can tell you this -- he's never forgotten another Mother's Day since, and our son just turned 9. That was a mistake that cost him quite a bit of money and he's not one to just go and spend friviously!





My advice is this -- tell him how you feel and that you're planning on going to dinner with your family, and that you hope he'll join you - even if he has to drink water with lemon and make lemonade because he can't afford to order tea. Don't let him get you down. I'm sure you're an absolutely fabulous mother! Sometimes men just need a kick in the head to get them back on track.





Maybe you should print out all of our answers and show him....





Good luck!
Reply:Ok but sorry, I am sure he was a jerk BEFORE baby.





Please don't have any more kids. This man is a narcissist. You can go look that up online right now. Some sites have tests you can take to rate if he is or not. I am thinking he will be in the "is" side.





How sad, you have many many more years of this. I would like to think you could get the spine to leave, but you really don't sound to motivated to do anything.
Reply:He is a immature selfish jerk





Take YOURSELF out for moms day, go out with your friends and family....you could even have him babysitt while you are out for a relaxing afternoon














HAPPY MOTHERS DAY :)








jOHN IS A JERK ALSO


HE PROBABLY HAS NO WOMAN, SITS AT HOME AND PLAYS WITH HIMSELF
Reply:play a joke on hin tell him to take you out to dinner if he says he dont habe the money -tell him you have money because you pawned his x box and this part is up to you if you want to really do it


he needs to help you with the baby and stop acting like one
Reply:Tell him he can either start treating you better or you are out of there. There is no reason for you to get no recogination on Mother's Day - that's not right.


I say go out with your mom and relatives and have fun without him....
Reply:I suggest you go out and leave him home alone. There is no reason why you can't sneak some money aside and go yourself. Forget him. What a jerk. I would not be married to this man for very long acting like that. he sounds very young and immature.
Reply:Why don't you see how he treats his own mother and then maybe you'll have your answer.





You will probably never get flowers, candy, gifts, etc from someone with an addiction. Money for his addiction takes precedence.
Reply:perhaps he doesnt think its a worthy holiday..like my husband..he hates valentines day. he thinks its just a holiday to get you to buy stuff. haha. do something for yourself! forget about him..buy yourself a well deserved massage!
Reply:That's sad. Maybe one of the men in your family can have a talk with him and make sure he's expected to join the family on Mother's day.
Reply:He can act any way he wants to. As his wife you are his property. You need to worry about cooking, cleaning and keeping your man sexually satisfied.
Reply:Take yourself out to eat on Mother's Day, Father's Day and on his birthday. And leave his *** at home.
Reply:You should act like a jerk on Father's Day and let him see how it is. Some men are jerks on holidays for some reason.
Reply:smash his XBox and leave the pieces on the seat of his car--what a piece of sh**t!!
Reply:Please stop thinking about what he is or isn't doing to make you happy. Start thinking about what you can do for yourself on Mothers day. Go with your family to the restaurant without him. Enjoy being a mother and being recognized by your family. Continue to find your own happiness. When he sees that you will ignore his selfish behavior and that he can no longer make you miserable, he might start to grow up and learn how to be a loving and supportive husband and father. Get couples counseling if you can.
Reply:My ex used to say, "I don't have to HONOR you on mother's day. You aren't my mother. That wasn't the only problem in our marriage. It was just one symptom of chronic selfishness. We've been divorced for 20 years and he's still the same. I remarried and my husband, although we've never had a child together, always buys me something, even if it's just a card - for mothers day. Because he says, he respects what a great mom I was for my boys. If he's just a jerk around mother's day, I think you should just let it pass. If he's a jerk about a lot of things, maybe you should let him know that it's time to rethink the marriage.