Hubby didnt remember mothers day...again?

this is my 3rd year as a mommy and he "forgot" again. I told him Sunday afternoon he should call his mom. He asked why.I said because it's mothers day and he acted like I was kidding. I said, no., it is and you should call her. He told me he thought it was next weekend and had intended to get me a card and something. Just a card would be fine, even one he and our daughter make would be perfect. I just want the memento to hold on to. I always make sure he gets a fathers day present, birthday, christmas etc. but he "forgets"me every time. Any suggestions?

Hubby didnt remember mothers day...again?
next time you're laying in bed and he starts cuddling tell him you forgot how to do it on (day of week)
Reply:Choose your battles..same thing here happens..so I just get myself something (purse, new shirt) and say "honey u got me this for mother's day, thank you" He's fine with it..as long as I'm happy. I know what you mean it's not the materialistic things though, but you know once your little one goes to school, she'll start to make you things for these occaisions. Next year go out to Denny's for breakfast!
Reply:Next year, put a note on his calendar that says "MOTHERS DAY" in red marker.





Also, have a chat with him and let him know that it would make you feel very happy and appreciated if he got you something for MOTHERS DAY.





Hopefully, next year, when he sees MOTHERS DAY on his calendar, he will put two and two together.
Reply:its not important what the occasion is..because mothers day is just one day of the year. what is important is whether he's a generally good husband to u.





the idea of mother's day is kinda stupid..its important that he loves u and works hard and doesn't treat u badly.





honestly, its just an occasion and really means nothing :)


make sure he cares--that's what's important.
Reply:Guys can be like that sometimes. They just can't take the hint. My suggestion would be to spell it out to him and let him know how you feel. He may not realize how important it is to you. You could also start forgetting to give him little gifts for different occassions too.
Reply:It sounds like he may not respect the women in his life. He not only forgets you but his own mother. What I say is treat him as he treats others and this fathers day forget all about him... Good luck.
Reply:I promise you he is not the only man that "forgot" mothers day.





We do these things because we enjoy them and we look forward to every little holiday and men just don't...they are just not as thoughtful!
Reply:Is a store brought card from your "husband" what you really want? Since your child is 3 years old give her a piece of paper and have her make you one. After all its a "mothers day" card its suppose to be from the child. Dont buy your husband a fathers day card either he isnt your father. My husband buys me a mothers day card and takes me to dinner since yours wont buy you a card the least he can do is take you to dinner. Thats just for him being lucky enough to have a good women to bare his children!
Reply:i doubt it is something you will change about him. you aren't his mother tho and even tho he should be teaching this to your daughter he won't. she will learn it in kindergarten! and thru you. i LOOOOOOVVVE my k-6 grade mothers day presents and dad didn't have doodly squat to do with them. be patient mom, you'll get them
Reply:As much as it sucks maybe you should send out reminders....a day or two before to keep yourself from getting hurt. Sorry babe but a lot of guys are like that it's their nature. Do yourself a favor and leave him a list of what you want or remind him before hand that maybe him and the baby should go out and get you something nice next year
Reply:hes a man. be thankful that u have a kid.
Reply:Does he tell you often that you are a good wife and mother? Does he do things to show is appreciation for you? I don't believe that I just have to receive a card from my husband on Mother's Day...just because Hallmark says he should get me one...
Reply:You aren't his mother!!! So why should he buy you something?!
Reply:Men can't remember things like dates. You have to remind them a lot. (not all men but most) If you want him to remember, write it down where he can see it everyday. Mothers day just isn't important to him as it is to you. Some men just don't get why the big deal. You know how he is and he'll either change with time or he'll still be the same man you married years from now. Don't get mad at him.. just put up reminders for every occasion you want him to know about. It's no big deal.. it doesn't mean he doesn't care of doesn't love you.. it just means he can't remember crap! Does he have a calendar on his desk? If so.. get it out and mark on it real big on the dates that are important.. about a week before that date write on each date until you get to the one that matters. He'll see it and be reminded. If that doesn't work.. hit him over the head with it until it sinks so far into his brain he won't ever forget.. j/k.. I know it's tempting. lol.
Reply:He'll remember when you decide enough is enough and decide to leave him.
Reply:Get over it, life is too short. Next year buy yourself a present. it is not that he has forgotten you, it is that other things were occupying his mind. Most of us men cant remember more than one thing at a time.
Reply:Buy yourself something. Not much you can do.





Next year give him articles, pictures etc...of things you want and put a big arrow pointing to it saying for Mothers Day.
Reply:Well, it's not like he ignored you in favor of his mom, so I think you just have to chalk it up to a bad memory for dates. Start dropping hints sooner next year, or see the non-holiday gestures of appreciation he and your daughter make as extra special.
Reply:Remind him a couple of days beforehand - easy solution.
Reply:forget fathers day
Reply:He sounds inconsiderate. It doesn't seem it is only you he forgets. Does he remember his family member's or friends birthdays?





I know that my husband keeps track of these events in his palm calendar, including all the dates of significance for the two of us, and he plans in advance what to get. The palm is set to remind him a few days ahead of time. He's got his parents, my mom, our dates, my kids, his kids, nieces and nephews, friends, his sisters and their husbands and my brother and fiance...everyone important to him to remember. As far as mother's day goes, he remembers that as well, even though I'm not the mother of his kids, I'm the stepmother and mother of my own and his wife, so he remembers. I do the same with him for father's day. But, that's who he is and not all people place the same significance on dates like that. Your husband simply may not and he may not know how important being remembered is to you either.





However, I knew he was thoughtful like that before I married him and it was and is something about him that I like. He isn't just thoughtful to me, but also to family and friends. He even reminded me that my brother's birthday was coming up, he has reminders set in for a few days in advance for mailing time.





So, I'd suggest talking honestly and openly with your husband because otherwise this is likely just to sit there and 'fester' for you. However, he might not change. Did he remember special days with you two before you married, does he remember them for his family, besides mother's day? And, when you do talk, try to word things in a way that the focus is on you. Use sentences like "I feel this way..." as opposed to sentences beginning with things like "you always or you never"
Reply:Try telling him a week or two in advance or even a few days in advance and then again the day before, not just on the day of "just to test him" because he will feel like a jerk and you will just end up upset at him for forgetting...my husband is horrible with dates/days/months...i have to remind him constantly of upcoming events.