Cards to uninvolved family members?

My boyfriend's parents are divorced. His mom remarried and he mostly grew up with his mom and stepdad, and he is close to the stepdad. His father was very involved in his life, too, but lives with a woman whom neither my BF nor his sister can stand. They are not married and she has never had a role in my BF's life.



I make a practice of sending out Mothers' Day/Fathers' Day/birthday cards to all my family members, and have begun including his family in my list. Am I obligated to send her a card for Mothers' Day, though she has never been much of a mom to him? How about when her B-day rolls around?



I send these sorts of happy wishes to his dad, and sent a Christmas card addressed to both of them.

Cards to uninvolved family members?
Cards are sent to people you care about. You are not obligated to send a card to anyone .
Reply:If they are not married, and she has no children of her own, I would not send her a mother's day card. If she has her own children, then that would be a sweet gesture. It would also be a sweet gesture to include her in your birthday card sending - but don't feel obligated. You are being very nice and considerate :-)
Reply:You are not obligated to send a card to anyone. The purpose of a mother's day card is to honor someone who has been motherly. Send one to his mom and your mom. On fathers day send one to your dad, his dad, and his stepdad.



However, I wouldn't send a card with just your signature. If it's just from you it would look like your picking favorites. If it's from your bf and you, it's a son honoring his father.
Reply:You should not be sending out cards to your BF's family for any reason. That's for him to do. If HE wants to send her one, you can sign it if you want. But it's presumptious for YOU to send those out.

It's HIS family, not yours. Once you and he get married, then you can take over that responsibility. Until then, keep it limited to your own fam.
Reply:I would send a birthday card but not a mothers day one .
Reply:You don't have to send them a card, but it'd look nice if you did!
Reply:If she's not involved then no. You don't need to and I'm sure she will understand or it might be weird if she got one.

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