Should I get my hubby a fathers day card, even though...??

we tried 3 years to get pregnant, it finally happened and last month was my very first mothers day! my husband didn't even get me a card. I didn't expect anything more but to not even get a card really upset me and I will be bitter about it for awhile... anyway, just wondering with fathers day coming up, should i get over it and get him a card (cuz i would have normally) or just do him like he did me and get him nothing? Thanks for your opinions!!

Should I get my hubby a fathers day card, even though...??
Of course you should get him one. It's understandable that you were hurt that he didn't get you one - but he's a guy! They just don't think on that level sometimes. No point in making it a tit for tat episode.





I bet next year will be different. He'll realise his mistake and follow your lead. Don't rub it in his face either.
Reply:You should get him a card, even though he did not. If you don't, it will perpetuate negative feelings for both of you, creating a cycle, which could poison the relationship later on. Also, he may get the hint and realize he messed up, and make up for it later. (did you tell him how you felt at all? Communication is paramount). And finally, by acting in a positive way instead of holding your hurt and anger, it will help alleviate those feelings.
Reply:Don't make this a game. A relationship is not a game. Don't take grudges because he didn't get you a card. Big deal. Whatever. It's a card. Let it go. If you don't get him a card, you're just adding to his "error" that you called it. If you did that, what's next, no birthday card, no Christmas card, no Valentines gift.


So, he forgot. Okay, I'll give you that. If you want to keep a grudge and "be bitter about it for awhile", you do that. That's your prerogative. However, move on and the next holiday is coming.... Father's Day.
Reply:congrats! your pregant now and your going to be super sensitive about everything (maybe) but I think it's a good idea to give your husband a fathers day card to make him feel special and maybe he didnt know he was suppose to give you a mother's day card because this was your first child and to say he or she is not even born yet. I say go for it, it will make him happy and appreciate you more next time.
Reply:Your baby had not arrived as of mother's day, correct? I would not be bitter myself. I got my husband a mug for fathers day (cost about 3 bucks) and a card, I am carrying our first child (I have one from my first marraige) and due in August. I just thought it would be silly and make him feel good. If your husband does nothing next year after your baby is born, maybe mention it then.
Reply:He won't really care because men don't care about things like that. My husband doesn't get me anything for my birthday, Christmas or our anniversary. On my birthday morning I say, "Today is my birthday." He says, "Oh." But occasionally he brings me home a mango at the store (because I said I love mangos) or a yellow rose from the garden (because I said yellow roses are my favorite).





So get a card or not. What matters is that you treat each other with love, not that you get revenge on him and not that he cares about cards and such. Men are indeed from another planet. And yes, it hurts our feelings. I don't know what to do about it either.
Reply:i think you should get him one a guys first father's day is the most precious they can cherish the memories until the baby arrives i'm gonna do that with my babys father and congrats on the pregnancy =o)





well congrats and i must read it wrong go figure for me i would get him one anyways and use finger paint and paint ur daughters hands and let her stamp it on the card i did that with my fist born and her daddy loved it alot
Reply:I would still get him a card. I practically had to force my husband to go get me one this Mother's day (also my first!) so it definitely wasn't as special if he had picked it out because he wanted to. But I'm still going to get him one because I feel it's the right thing to do. He's probably a wonderful father and he deserves to be recognized. As did you, but you gotta remember guy's dont' think like we do! Not trying to make excuses for them, but it's true.
Reply:ok- i see why your feelings were hurt, but he is a man! and technically, your not a mother yet.that sounds harsh but your a mother to be. i would go ahead and get himone bc thats what you thought to do for him. just bc he didnt do the same, doesnt mean he doesnt love you or that he wouldnt liek to get something. or you can just wait until your real first mothers day with baby. that way you both get to celebrate your firsts together.
Reply:If you haven't delivered the child yet then it is against the law to celebrate mother's day or father's day. If you do get him a card please adhere to the rules and make sure that a "man-card" does not contain more than 2 sentences. If it's more than that then we just read the first and last sentence anyway... Be warned, if it's too flowery or contains poems then he'll probably cram it up your cramhole.
Reply:there are so many holidays to celebrate in one year. u really need to pick which ones that are important to you and feel like celebrating.





sounds like mothers/fathers day will be a big deal to you. so you should let your husband know by giving him a card. this shows him that you want to be acknowleged on mothers day.





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yes, it does our answers. congrats on baby.
Reply:Just make him a sandwich, play with his junk, and don't worry him about your petty need for a card.





And don't talk more than you need to.





That's all.





Oh, guys don't like cards. We just have to smile and say "wow thanks honey" Then worry about if it gets thrown out in 10 years if you'll get bitter.
Reply:Yes, the card is from your daughter afterall.





Bite your lip and don't get all huffy that he didn't think to get you a mothers day card. It took my husband a while to get into buying/ making cards with the children too.





It is so just not a great big deal afterall.
Reply:Ahhhhhh. Newly married i see. See dear men just are not as ummmmmm, quick on the up-take as us sometimes. If your going to retaliate everytime he does something "manly" get ready for a loooonng married life. I'd say just forget it and go on. If he does it when the baby is actually here, Then mame him!
Reply:sometimes things don't come easily for men. I say you get him a card despite him not giving you one. part of marriage is implanting ideas in their brain... this may help him realize -- don't stay mad. i know this is stupid-- but it puts propesctive in the way women think and men think (men are from mars and women are from venus). congrats on the baby new momma! :)
Reply:he's a man he's kinda dumb at those kind of things (like me)


please get him one, and maybe tell him it would have been nice to receive one..


oh and thank you for reminding me about cards my anniversary is coming right up... your a life saver
Reply:get him card and write on there even though i didn't get a card, im not as mean as you. Just throw him a hint. But he is a man and really could care less about a card.
Reply:Get him a Father's Day card, then write in it "You still owe me SOMETHING for finally being able to celebrate Mother's Day, mister......". *lol*
Reply:I would probably get him a card and he will probably be surprised and even happy. Then he may realize how you felt and feel bad for not getting you a card.
Reply:get him a card and then see if he gets the hint to get you one next year. hopefully he will remember %26amp; if he doesn't then say something about it or don't get him one next year.


Congrats=D
Reply:just give him a card to show how much you care about fathers/mothers day and hopefully next year he'll get you something.
Reply:Do onto others as you would have them do onto you.
Reply:IF I WERE YOU... I WOULD TO SHOW HIM THAT U CARE...AND THAT IT MEANS SOMETHING TO YOU. AND ITS NOT LIKE JUST ANY OTHER NORMAL DAY! AND THAT WILL PROBABLY MAKE HIM THINK AS WELL..
Reply:yesh u shuld give him one even though u rlly want to doesnt mean u hav to stop giving him it bcuz he didnt give u one jus give him one be happy to give not recieve :)
Reply:Your relationship won't work if you hold grudges .. if you would normally get a card, then get one.


And congratulations!
Reply:Be the bigger person and get him a card for daddy with the babies name signed on it.....men are kind of stupid...maybe he'll get the hint for next year.
Reply:kill him with kindness.. yes get him a card maybe even a present... alot of men are stupid when it comes things like that, or maybe he doesnt want to jinx it
Reply:get him one and write inside for your first fathers day may it always be in your memory!
Reply:"Love...keeps no record of wrongs."





Tell him that you had expected a card, forgive him and give him a fathers day card.
Reply:Celebrate Mother's and Father's day next year when you have your baby in your arms. I wouldn't hold it against him for not getting you a card this year. If what you want is to get him a card, do so!
Reply:I wouldn't get him a gift until the baby is here. Still, tell him Happy Father's Day.





Baby is here? I wouldn't knocked him out if I didn't get anything at all! I'm the mad type and I would not get him anything.