OKAY so new mothers... Mothers day is coming and what would you do if you know the daddy is a HORRIBLE gift...

Giver. I didnt get anything for my birthday, christmas( I got a card which I LOVED a bag of tooties rolls and some candles.)nothing for V-day.



Im not saying that I NEED gifts. I just want to feel loved thought of. It is important to me to get gifts on these days and he knows it. It may sound crazy but when my daughter was born I had made him a cd of songs that were all a daughter to her dad or songs of loving your dad.



I thought that was so thoughtful and I got nothing. I dont do anything to get anything in return. Just am scared Im going to have a lame first Mothers Day and dont want to tell him how important it is to.





What would you do?

OKAY so new mothers... Mothers day is coming and what would you do if you know the daddy is a HORRIBLE gift...
The only thing you *can* do is tell him what you want. Breakfast in bed? Brunch reservations? An afternoon to yourself? Flowers?



If you can relay this info through a third party, go for it. My sister routinely tells my husband what I want for Christmas ... after I've told my sister.



But I wouldn't hesitate to take the direct route. It's not as nice as if he'd thought of it himself. Rather than be miffed on M-Day, I'd rather tactfully hint up front, "I was thinking that maybe for Mother's Day, you and I could ..."



Good luck!
Reply:well in the 3 years I've been with my husband I haven't gotten anything for any holiday whatsoever so just know he loves you and try to teach your kids better so someday they might give you something
Reply:I think you should pretend to be on the phone and be in a room that he can hear you from and say like .....

oh yeah and I saw (somthing that you want) and I hope that (name of your husband) gets this for me
Reply:Some guys just aren't good with things like that I guess. How about celebrating yourself? Go get a massage, go shopping for something for yourself, get your nails done or a new haircut - go have lunch (adults only!) with some friends or your mom. And thank your child and her father for making you a mommy!
Reply:Exactly what you just told us, tell him sweety.theres no other way,,he needs to know it's bothering you especially since you guys are together and your his baby's mama
Reply:just say oh guess what mother's day is this month and i was thinking about planning something and then i remembered that it was your job and i don't want to spoil it for you so have fun honey!!!
Reply:Tell him honestly how important this is for you. It is obviously not important to him or he simply does not know what to get. Make it easier for him by choosing something in a reasonable price range and putting it on hold. Tell him where it is and ask him to pick it up. If he is not able (or doesn't want to) pick it up yourself and thank him for it. Some men simply cannot buy gifts and, if they tried, would make a sorry mess of it. Appreciate the things that he does do for you. Are you a stay at home Mom? Thank him for heading out the door every morning to his job and then returning home to you. Thank him for being a good Dad. I am sure you can come up with a list of things you do appreciate. Let him know
Reply:Maybe mention to him that it's coming up and ask if he has anything planned? If he doesn't seem like he's going to do anything maybe you should plan to go out for breakfast or lunch. That way it will feel like a special day.
Reply:Ha...my husband also has to be reminded that even though we're the grown-ups, we like gifts too.



I've given up hinting and now just tell him what I'd like, for something like Mother's Day or my birthday....for Christmas I give him a rough estimate on what the kids and I have spent on him, so he has a guideline. I don't expect him to get exactly the same amount, but with him it helps to have a ballpark figure in mind. Now he asks for lists, too...because he's really just clueless.



For our anniversary last year, he bought me a wooden cutting board (a big bulky one that doesn't fit anywhere in our kitchen), because 5 years is 'wood'. It happens to be the same cutting board we exchanged when we got it as a wedding present. Oh, yes. He really pays attention to things. That stupid cutting board is still sitting on top of my microwave staring at me. It's a slotted one to let crumbs fall through, so it's not even useful for cutting up veggies or anything.



This year I'm just going to tell him that if he's wondering what I might like for Mother's Day, Rachael Ray's new Yum-O family cookbook would be a great idea...I'm planning on buying it anyway, so it's practical and something I know I'll like...win/win situation.
Reply:Well I here ya sister. I would be shocked if I get anything, even acknowlegement for that day!! And it will be my first. I don't know if there is anything you can do except tell him that it is important to you. If you DON"T tell him, you cannot get mad at him for not giving you something. You can't just assume that he knows, men are pretty black and white. You HAVE to tell them, usually more than once. Good luck, and don't let that ruin your mother's day. Just be greatful for the blessing of being a mother.
Reply:Drop hints.



My husband gives bad, tacky gifts, too and sometimes forgets altogether, but I know he cares. He's just not into celebrating every little "Hallmark" holiday.



I do expect him to do something spectacular for my first Mother's Day though. So, I've definitely been dropping hints. Lots of them.
Reply:Well i threatened my husband =). I told him what i expected and wanted. I am tired of being let down with a corny gift. So for my 1st mothers day which will be May 2008. I told him " from the moment i open my eyes until i go to bed i dont want to lift a finger for nothing, i want breakfast in bed, sexy lingerie from VS, and i want to go out for dinner ( to a restaurant where i can dress up and reservations are made).

I know it seems like much but if you dont stand for something you will definitely fall for anything.
Reply:This isnt just for new mommies, but old ones too. Men are usually terrible gift givers.



I don't use hints for my husband. I make sure I have his attention and I look him square in the face. I will tell him my birthday (or whatever holiday) is coming up, and it would mean a lot to me if he got me something, it doesnt have to cost much money, but has to be special. That works for me.



It's always best to be direct.
Reply:sounds like my husband.



our 2nd year wedding anniversary just past, and since the traditional gift is cotton, know what he got me?? cotton candy! it was funny, but i didnt get anything else.



we've been together for 9 years, and ive learned just to let things go. he is who he is. its not that hes not thoughtful, hes just not a very good gift giver. no big deal. i just keep it ot myself.



try hinting at something that you would like to do. dinner out, spa day ect. and see if he picks up on it.
Reply:Bring it up with your husband and let him know how important it is to you. Men can be pretty dense about stuff like this and sometimes you have to spell it out for them. I hope you have a great 1st Mother's Day!
Reply:i personally do not have that problem since my husband surprises me all the time and i have a hard time surprising him!

if i were you i would just hint around or if you have a really understanding relationship with great communication then you need to just tell him how you feel.
Reply:You married a man that is a horrible gift giver, thus you must give him ideas to suit you. Or, go buy your own! There's nothing wrong w/ saying that you want a massage at "Massage Heights", 3 bottles of lotion from Bath and Body, and a Coach purse. You just have to tell him what you want :) Print him a picture from the computer, give him directions to the mall, and let him know when the event occurs.
Reply:Well when all else fails do it yourself. Plan a day for you!

Maybe he can watch the baby while you go to a Spa!

That way he is giving you a gift and he won't even know it. I plan stuff on my own sometimes......my husband is great....but not the most romantic?!