I am really sad about mothers day....some other things. Need some advice.?

My dad was just here after having heart surgery. He told me when he was here that he had a heart attack and was in intensive care for a week. He or his wife didn't call any of my fathers children when this was going on. I feel hurt. Tomorrow is mothers day and I know that my husband didn't do anything for me. (He told me this) I have a daughter and he has three children that I make certain that all of their days are special ones - gifts, cake, decorations, friends over etc. I enjoy doing things for my family. The thing that is hurting so much today is that I didn't get a gift, card or cake for my birthday, nothing for our anniversary, and now nothing for tomorrow. He found a video in our garage today and put it into the VCR to see what it was, it was a tape of him celebrating his ex wifes birthday with her, he got her an emerald necklace and a night gown. I wish that I had not watched this. I feel so bad. I feel bad for feeling bad. What would you do or say?

I am really sad about mothers day....some other things. Need some advice.?
Maybe he does have something planned. If he doesn't I can see why your upset. Go do something yourself tomorrow that makes you feel good. I hope that helps and good luck. Happy mothers day!!!!
Reply:God bless you. Look at your children and know its a gift from him upstairs that you have them with you. Be thankful for what you have and not what you didn't get.



Today is my 40 birthday, I didn't get anything from my son, and tomorrow is my first mothers day without my mom. She died in September of last year. Life sends us many curve balls and we just don't know what to do with them.



Go ahead and hurt because you have that right too. Take hot bath and drink a glass of wine and just relax.
Reply:God bless you baby.
Reply:I feel bad for you it is very sad I have somewhat the same situation remember love those who love you and associate with people who make you happy.Forget about the others only your attitude can make you happy or unhappy remember that.Get up each morning and say to yourself I will be happy today and dont depend on others to do it for you it will never happen.Try not to think about it and do fun things each day.believe me been there and done that tooooo many times.
Reply:Thats terrible you poor girl!!!!!



Firstly theres nothing wrong with being upset about it....Feeling like he hasnt made the effort...and worse the fact that you feel left out when something serious happens to a family member!



all these feeling whether a once or over time if not resolved will build up and eventually explode on something whether it was really that serious like for instanced anniversarys , birthdays etc....or something small....the point is that you feel as though no-one cares about you!



now you no deep down this isnt true but the fact that it hasnt been expressed to you in a while has upset you....they may have not realised!



if thats the case you need to sit them all down and tell them how you feel before things get any worse!



if they have realised then you should asked them why!!!!



Finding a video of your husband treating his ex-wife better than you is very upsetting so let him no that



i hope it all works out for you!!
Reply:I feel very bad for you. It shouldn't be that way See if you can sit him down and tell him how you feel. If that doesn't work and you still want to stay with him ( I'd dump him if I were you!)

Then take your daughter and go out and have a wonderful, special Mothers Day with just the two of you and if you can, buy yourself something special.

Good Luck!

And have a Very Happy Mothers Day!
Reply:Sorry to be the one to tell you this but you need to stop and think about what you wrote. You buy people gifts (homemade are just as special) to show you care, if you dont receive gifts that may be a small (or HUGE) sign that you are not appreciated as his special person.

Let him know you want (or need) gifts and other tangible objects of affection.
Reply:Sorry. You need to get over it. I think it's just a reason to reserve the right to be pissed off. Just one more thing to add to your list of crap you need to complain about. Didn't get what you wanted, husband should've thought about it more, somehow says that he doesn't love you. I mean seriously . . . SHUT UP!



People are freakin busy, okay? Everyone has enough to deal with without being held to the highest F-in scrutiny over MOTHER'S DAY! Big WOO! Get over it. I'm happy with a card on my Birthday. I don't expect a freakin extravaganza honoring me. Just stupid.
Reply:Have a hug you need one and deserve one. I hope this bad weekend will pass and you will find some way to get new perspective and strength to move forward to better days and relationships. Find someone near you to be your support system or seek counseling. Then decide if you want a new life. :)
Reply:you know he is this way from past experiences so why are you with this dufas? he lacks the compassion of an old shoe girl!



He is selfish so when it comes time for his brithday..DO NOT GET HIM ANYTHING!!...just pretend it is another day...see how he likes it..and if he does not get a clue by then you either leave him and find someone who is not a clueless moron or stick with him and be miserable



PS happy mommys day YOU SOUND LIKE A GREAT GAL!!
Reply:I am not able to say anything. I am feeling really sorry for you. My sympathies are with you and i will also pray for you.
Reply:Let's review:



You found this moron, picked him out from all others, decided to date him exclusively and stay away from all other men, then insisted on marrying him and forsaking all others for him, and then you complain.



I say you are punishing yourself with this guy. Had enough???

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