Anyone dislike their mother and feel Mothers Day is fake?

My mother is a nice lady but shes someone who never encouarged me to follow my dreams, always discouraged me and told me i could not do certain things. Very critical of me and always takes sides with other people to go against me. I feel she failed as a mother by never listening to me,,I can go on,, I was in denial lying to myself that shes a good mother but i faced the truth and she failed me.



I brought her a gift and a card for Mothers Day and am taking her out but now i feel its very fake.. I just pretend i love her and shes great but i feel otherwise..

Should i tell her how i feel?

Anyone else feel the same?

Anyone dislike their mother and feel Mothers Day is fake?
Honey, Your Mom is the only Mom you will ever have. You may think that she was not a good Mom because she didn`t encourage you and was very critical of you but do you suppose maybe she made you a stronger person by doing this. Maybe this was her way of making you stronger. Also have you ask your Mom why she did this. Maybe she was raised the same way and that is all she knows. Remember she is the only Mom you will ever have, she gave birth to you and raised you (even though you don`t think she did it right) and how would you feel if something happened to her and you didn`t get the chance to make amends.
Reply:yes i agree with you. my mother went to jail and when she tried to take me back her excon bf almost raped me. she hasn't talked to me since. i hate mothers day and wish it didn't exist.
Reply:I cant stand my mom, and dont mence words about it.. she knows she has failed as a mother, not to just me, but my 4 brothers as well... if this is how you feel, then tell her, let her know she has hurt you, but be prepared for the war that is to follow
Reply:Mothers day is real only for those who are really very appreciative or their mother. No, don't tell your mom how you really feel (not on mothers day, anyway) but if you really want to tell her, do it maybe another day and when you are calm, i.e. don't make it ugly for her or yourself. Most of all, tell her you "forgive" her and you would have at least released all the hurt/pain she could have inflicted
Reply:no, my mom died 2 yrs ago.
Reply:Makes me wonder what HER mom was like and what her childhood was like.Sometime tell her how you feel about all the things you told us(exclude mother's day).You see I felt the same way about my mom and I felt the same way about mother's day.I did realize later ,although my mom was abusive in a lot of ways,s he loved me the best she knew how although it wasnt to my liking.She was broken but I learned I was too and it took the LORD to fix me and HE is still working on me.That prompted me to pray for my mother seeing GOD was her only hope.You can hate someone for the rest of their life, and once theyre gone theyre gone there no mending broken fences then hon.My mom died 3 yrs ago.Im glad I decided to forgive and pray for her many years ago.
Reply:You know what, everyone is not perfect and maybe your mother was trying to do what was right by you. She might have had a bad mother herself and that was her guide in how to be a mother. But if you say in other ways she is a nice lady then she must have some redeeming qualities.

Try to focus on the positive, what she has done for you, she's your only mother and nobody's perfect. It's too easy to focus on the negative.
Reply:I f your mother was fake.....you wouldn't be here
Reply:It seem to me that your father plays some reason why she is unruly to you. When you take your mother out for dinner talk to her about her past. There may be a reason why she is unable to give you the love that a mother should of. Perhaps there are things in the past that had affected her. It's unfair for you to say all these things without understanding your mother reason.



If you openly talk to her, you may fine some surprising things and it may be the tool for you to have a good relationship with her. You have every right to question your mom about her past actions. Once she has answer your questions then decide on how you feel about her. There good mothers who really deserves their own day. When you have kids or if you already have kids, make sure that they will celebrate this day with you with some honest smiles.



God Bless
Reply:I wish every girl had a Mom who supported her and made you feel like you were the priority in her life. Maybe you can find a lady to be your mentor? She wouldn't be your Mom but she could fill in areas of your life that are empty because of your Mom. You are a faithful daughter to go along like everything is OK. At some point in time you will need to talk to her about your feelings. It won't be to change her or make her wonderful, it will help you. Best of luck to you!
Reply:I love my mom, but I still feel like mother's day is so totally fake.

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