Who's responsiblity is it to send cards?

ok me and my husband have been married for 4 yrs now and i always send out all the birthday and christmas and mothers day etc cards. i always write in them and sign both our names like most wives. the thing is lately my mother in law has drove me over then edge and i no longer feel the need to be so invovled with her after all she still spells my name wrong and sends a card that says happy birthday 2 days late. this year her b-day is on the 9th in a few days and i haven't sent a card and thought i'd leave it to my husband since she is his mother. anyone think i should have sent one or should call her or is it ok to have him do it since she only calls and talks to him i never get a phone call from her. she even made my fil call on mothers day (my b-day too) to tell hiim to call. so he did and she cried and even though i sent a card and e-mailed her she never told me happy b-day. what is yalls take is this ok to have him deal with her and make him remember.

Who's responsiblity is it to send cards?
If she was nice i'd say you should send the cards etc but she's not, nevertheless she's your mother in law and blokes are forgetful so I say you just remind your hubby and let him send the cards/make the effort. Although make sure he puts your name in it too!
Reply:Buy the card one that says from the both of us, and have him sign it with your name, in a way telling his Mom that your part of his life as well and then have him send it.
Reply:Instead of worrying about whose responsibility it is to send a card, the bigger issue is do you want to spend the rest of your life being at odds with your mother-in-law? There are obviously some communication problems. Have you talked to her directly about what upsets you? It may be that she's innocent in some of these things. Spelling your name wrong may just be that she can't remember how you spell it. Sending a birthday card that arrives 2 days late could mean she got caught up in life and didn't get it in the mail in time. Or it could have been hung up at the post office. At least she thought enough of you to send one.



Why do you feel your mother in law has it in for you? Maybe she only talks to your husband because she feels like you don't want to talk to her. She had to get your father in law to call her son to remind him to call his mother. Sounds like this kind of thing runs in the family. Don't set your expectations so high that she can't meet them. If you don't tell her how you feel, you're being unfair to her.



I suspect that if you have an honest conversation with your mother in law, not blaming but telling her how her actions make you feel, you may find she isn't the horrible person you think she is. This sounds like a lot of miscommunication and misunderstanding. Talk to her and straighten things out. Stop the petty games and start developing a good relationship with this woman. She's going to be a part of your life for a very long time.
Reply:I think your husband should take a turn. Why is it your responsibility to send all the cards???



As you mother in law hasnt been very nice to you Id say to your husband its your mums birthday if you want her to have a card you had better send one. If he doesnt then thats his responsibility.
Reply:You STILL handwrite cards manually and send it out yourself? Girl, let me link you to my friends website. I believe she offers free trials too so you can send a card or 2 for free ( i think she set it up for 5 not sure).



I have been using the system for over a year now and totally love it. I bought the handwriting font too so any card i mail out is in my own handwriting.



let me know if you have any questions i can ask her for you.
Reply:I would like to know who wrote the rule book as it is the wife's responsibilty to buy and send the inlaws gifts. Why is it not the husband's responsibiltly to send his mother a mother's day card or birthday card? If he was single would he do it or is it because he is married he has a memory loss? You signed up for that job now your stuck. Most couples talk about the gift and one person picks it up. Is your husband conserned about your family and if they get a card?



Bottom line, like most sons they don't care and can't be bothered with the bologna. I sent cards, gifts, spent hundreds of dollars on broadway plays, brunch, gifts for my mother in law for her birthday, mothers day, etc. I was told by her that the cards and gifts started after he was dating me. Therefore, she knew her son did not do it and if it did not come from her son she wanted nothing as I am not her child.



Guess what, I do nothing. I send nothing. and her son dose nothing so she gets nothing. Now the issue is he never remembers her b day, mothers day and it's my fault. Oh well not my problem. I would start off by handing him the cards and telling him to send them. If he dose he dose if not let them sit on the table. Next holiday I would say I just want to remind you to get a card he gets one great if not oh well. (not your problem) Don't start off at a halt with this as then you will look petty and spitefull I would just get out of doing it slowly.



If she calls you about it, tell her to speak to her son your not aware of what he buys her.

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