How can I survive Mother's Day?

I'm 17 years old, and my mother died on December 26th, 1997. Her birthday was/is May 17th.



I really abhor Mother's day because I get comments like, "Hey, what'd you get your mother for Mother's Day? Oh yeah, that's right, you don't have one!"



Also, in Computer Graphics class, we're going to be designing cards for our mothers.



How do I survive through the tears and stress this day is sure to bring?

How can I survive Mother's Day?
Use this day to honor your departed mother. She still exists, even if she isn't alive right now. Include some pictures of her in an altar settup, light some incense and normal candles and just spend some time thinking about her. Try to remember the good times. She probably still watches her family, if she hasn't been reborn yet.
Reply:I am sorry to hear your mom passed away, especially at such a young age.

Here are some pieces of advice, hope they help:

1. in the computer graphics class, do you still have grandmothers or aunts? if so, you could maybe do the card for any of them. if not, try doing the card to the memory of yor mom, and list all the good things she did for you.

2. try remembering the happy moments you guys had. then think about all the children who didn't even get the chance to get one caress by their mom. be grateful for the years she was with you. i can guarantee you that she is still taking care of you in one way or the other.

3. if you are a believer, think that was God's will, and try to accept it. if you are not a believer, death is the one thing that can not be changed, so you can either live sad for something over which you have no power at all or try to accept it.

4. are you close to your dad? maybe you can spend the evening with him, or with other family members or friends. that could help to cheer you up.
Reply:try to skip that day in school.
Reply:I understand how you feel. My mother died a few years ago. (But I'm male and older than 17, and married). It still hurts sometimes, though, at the thought that I no longer have a mother.



Maybe this will help: try to turn the situation into a joke, so that you can laugh instead of grieve. And I'm not trying to make your loss trivial.



For example (and this is just an example) : The next time a thoughtless friend says that you don't have a mother, reply with, "Now, isn't that something? I wonder how I turned out to be so human!"



I'm sure other respondents to your question will give you some other thoughts.



Keep you chin up and smile.
Reply:I'm sorry for your loss and it must be real hard on you.. I'm not sure if this would work but maybe you could get something for a close friend's mom or an aunt or even a mom living in an old-folks home who probably has no one to give her anything. Some people will always be insensitive. For the computer class try not to be upset - design something for your mom that she would have liked. Be strong Loki!
Reply:You will survive and i believe ONLY if you cry and feel the feelings of grief and loss. It is a sad thing to lose your mother. No matter what your age. Losing someone we love requires us to grieve fully. When we don't is when the unhealthy distractions and addictions creep in.
Reply:when I worked with children we were designing cards, i decided to do my sister 1 from her niece but if it is really a problem then mention it in class i am sure there is something else you can do. sometimes it is good just to accept other peoples lives we are all different with different family and different issues people are not psycic about our personal experiences and places in life. i have fount you do not even have to tell people if a family member has died, not that that is a good thing either, every year will get better, keep talking and asking for advice!
Reply:you can still celebrate with you mother's essence,

do a day of prayer and ritual, and maybe put fresh flowers and a poem on her grave.

I'm sure she is still smiling opver her little baby, cause you know to them we never grow up. She's still proud of you, feel her in your heart, and you will celebrate with her.



Blessed Be,



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P.S.

It's okay to cry, just know that she is there hoding you, even if you can't se her, she is there.