i've been with my sons father for 2yrs.. although we dont have infidelity issues i feel like he doesnt respect or honor me. well sat at midnite.. im hangin out with the girls and he texts me HAPPY MOTHERS DAY.. ok.. cool.. but sunday.. they whole day went by and he never parted the words outta his mouth.. later that evening.. i hear him tell his friends wife HAPPY MOTHERSDAY.. so i comment how it sounds really good coming out of his mouth.. but im feeling the nerve of him.. i struggled having the baby.. i take very good care of them both.. and he couldnt even get me a card balloon or anything.. i really wasnt trippin until i heard him honor another person..for real.. i want out.. hes selfish %26amp; self centered. before we were committed. .i received lots of bday cards etc.. now i think the sucker takes me for granted.. im so ready to quit him.. i've been complaining bout this relationship for 2 years.. things arent getting any better as far as the respect honor thing.
SHOULD I CALL IT QUITS for lack of honor %26amp; respect? he didnt say "happy mothers day" +we dont see eye2eye.
Really evaluate where your feelings are comeing from...If he is selfish in all things and you feel it is to an abusive level, meaning psychological games and manipulation...then to leave is definately within your rights to do so...But make sure you truly gave it all you had to give...But to protect yourself emmotionally, and your children as well...sometimes we have to make choices we never thought we would have to face. I wish you well...Take care.
Reply:Some men are just not into the whole give a card or gift thing, but if you don't want to be with him, then don't stay in a relationship that makes you miserable. Try talking to him.
Reply:Sounds like the weekend I had but my daughter's father told me Happy MotherF**kers Day...no card,no balloons,no time no nothing...but I met someone last week who I have alot in common with...baby daddy still hasn't called...so I kicked him to the left...good luck
Reply:Ok then you just answered your own question but you want some one to tell you : GET OUT. You are not happy and until you get on your own you won't be. I would rather take my self out and have my nails done for ME on mothers day than be begging some jerk to be nice. You know you deserve better and YOU KNOW he is not going to change. You have been complaining for 2 years and what has changed...You said nothing so what are you waiting for???? Pack your stuff take your son and get on with your life. If you won't for you do it for your son he should grow up learning respect for women and for him self. Staying with his father is not doing him any justice.
I am not trying to be rude... just want you to get motivated to get on with you life. Don't wake up in this mess in 10 years. Life is too short.
Reply:"I've been complaining about this relationship for 2 years."
Is it possible that you've been so busy complaining and focusing on the things that you don't like, that you have pushed him to the point that he doesn't honor and respect you because you will just complain to him some more?
Really be introspective here....do you honor and respect him? Or do you find fault and complain all the time? Is it possible that the cards and sweetness left the relationship first FROM YOUR SIDE and he's just followed suit, or is it really that he is selfish and doesn't respect and honor you?
If you think there might be something to what I suggested, maybe you should try being sweet and loving towards him on a regular basis. No more complaining.....do this for a month (what's another month at this point?) and see if his attitude doesn't start to change. Be sure to compliment him, thank him, be sweet to him, happy to see him etc. Aren't these all things you want from him? You think yelling at him and whining to him is the best way to get that from him?
Just a thought, I could be totally out in left field here....
Good Luck.
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