I recieved a card and it has mad and sad?

got a mothers day card from my mil for mothers day...she signed it mr %26amp; mrs. "blah blah blah" but she did not write my name on it except for writting it on the envelope the mailman delivered. she didn't even write the date on it. i found it very impersonal and kinda hurt cause he son and i have been together almost 7 yrs now.

she did the same thing last year. i told my husband and he was like "why would you even care about it, don't tell me you're gonna make an arguement about it with me...if you don't like it then tell her about it."...i feel i just might say something but, then i don't want anyone to say "wow what a b**** " about me eventhough i know they don't like me much anyways.

should i say something and when would be the right time ?

I recieved a card and it has mad and sad?
I would just forget about it.



You said that they don't like you already. By sending the card without your name and the date, (something they must know you would like from your post), they just put another wedge between you and your husband since you two had a disagreement over it.



They seem to be tring to to make your husband pick THEM or YOU. Leave it be and next time your around them tell them how wonderfull your husband is to you just to tick them off.



P.s. My in-laws hate me also.
Reply:It sounds as if you have other things to worry about regarding your MIL rather than concentrating on why the card was missing a name and a date . . .
Reply:I didn't know that I was supposed to put a name or date on a card. I always just sign a card with "Love" or something and my name. Sometimes I draw a little heart. Maybe she doesn't know either.
Reply:my God, you got a card that wasn't up to YOUR standards. Perish the thought. You should leave a flaming bag of crap on their doorstep immediately and that'll teach them to show you proper respect when being thoughtful.

Incidentally did you give your MIL a card?
Reply:I wouldn't take note of it- if they have a problem with you they are the ones that have to get over things- just try and be nice to them and don't let it get to you then they'll see that what they do doesn't bother you because they might be trying to get to you. If you are really concerned then talk to her and tell her how it makes u feel, they might not even know they are doing it .
Reply:Mothers in law don't change, I would suggest to let it go.
Reply:You do know you can turn your ringer off on your phone at any time so they can not call and bother you ..?
Reply:Well, let me give you another point of view, have you ever seen the show "Everybody Loves Raymond?" You may just want to thank your stars for an impersonal MIL bcuz you could have had a meddlesome and nosy one. I would suggest looking inside yourself and seeking out why you have these feelings. How is your relationship with your mother? Was it negative? Perhaps you hoped that the MIL relationship would have her take the role as a second mother to you. It doesn't always happen that way. If you feel that strong about it, confront her, but rehearse it first, you don't want to come off as weak, or too vicious.
Reply:you should confront them now. the longer you wait and put off telling how you feel the more insucure you will be. you have to do it now and see how they will react. good luck and god be with u.
Reply:Some advice: Write return to sender on the card and send it back.

Take the card she gave you and some white out and give it to her the next year.

Give her fruitcakes and hideous socks and sweaters for X-Mas.

As for the calls, unplug the phone at hours where it is inappropriate to call or shut your cell off.